Loss, grief, and attachment in life transitions : a clinician's guide to secure base counseling / Jakob van Wielink, Leo Wilhelm and Denise van Geelen-Merks.

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Wielink, Jakob van

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Material type: Text

TextSeries: Death, dying, and bereavementPublisher: New York : Routledge, Taylor & Francis Group, 2020Description: xix, 244 pages ; 23 cmContent type:

text

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unmediated

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volume

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9780367206543

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Additional physical formats: Online version:: Loss, grief, and attachment in life transitionsDDC classification:

155.937 WIE 23

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Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:

Loss, Grief, and Attachment in Life Transitions gives readers an attachment-informed grief counseling framework and a new way of understanding non-death loss and its treatment.

Loss and grief are viewed through a wide-angle lens with relevance to the whole of human life, including the important area of career counseling and occupational consultation. The book is founded on the key themes of the Transition Cycle: welcome and contact, attachment and bonding, intimacy and sexuality, seperation and loss, grief and meaning reconstruction. Rich in case material related to loss and change, the book provides the tools for adopting a highly personalized approach to working with clients facing a range of life transitions.

This book is a highly relevant and practical volume for grief counselors and other mental health professionals looking to incorporate attachment theory into their clinical practice.

Table of contents provided by Syndetics

Series Editor's Foreword (p. xii)
Acknowledgments (p. xiv)
List of illustrations and Tables (p. xvi)
About the Authors (p. xviii)
Introduction (p. 1)
Glossary (p. 4)
1 Exploring Loss (p. 9)
A Case Study (p. 9)
Recognizing, Acknowledging, Exploring, and Enduring Loss (p. 10)
Grief (p. 14)
There is No Recipe for 'The Correct Way to Grieve' (p. 15)
A Historical Sketch of the Views on Finiteness (p. 17)
New Vision of Shaping Personal and Professional Change (p. 28)
Dialogue (p. 29)
Questions for Self-Reflection (p. 31)
Exercises (p. 32)
Exercise-Recognizing the Losses (p. 32)
Exercise-Personal Loss (p. 32)
Exercise-Lifeline (p. 32)
2 To Welcome and Connect (p. 37)
A Case Study (p. 37)
Stones of Loss Need a Sanctuary (p. 38)
Counseling the Other Side of Contact and Welcome (p. 39)
Dialogue (p. 42)
Questions for Self-Reflection (p. 43)
Exercises (p. 44)
Exercise-Getting Acquainted/Intake Interview (p. 44)
Exercise-Make Your Own Birth Announcement Card (p. 44)
Exercise-The Genogram (p. 45)
3 Attachment and Bonding (p. 50)
A Case Study (p. 50)
The importance of Secure Bases (p. 51)
Working Models (p. 53)
Attachment Styles (p. 56)
Attachment in Adults (p. 62)
The Difference Between Attachment and Bonding (p. 64)
The Counselor as a Secure Base (p. 64)
Counseling the Other Side of Attachment and Bonding (p. 65)
Dialogue (p. 66)
Questions for Self-Reflection (p. 68)
Exercises (p. 68)
Exercise-Recognizing Attachment Styles (p. 68)
Exercise-'Inquiry' (p. 68)
Exercise-To Physically Experience Different Attachment Styles (p. 69)
Exercise-The Secure Base Map (p. 70)
Exercise-Constellation Using Mats (p. 71)
Exercise-Reaching Out and Withdrawing in Attachment Strategies (p. 72)
4 Sharing Intimacy and Outlining Sexuality (p. 76)
A Case Study (p. 76)
The Very First Moment of Intimacy (p. 77)
Intimacy and Touch (p. 79)
Intimacy in the Partner Relationship (p. 79)
Sexuality (p. 80)
Intimacy, Sexuality, and Grief (p. 81)
Intimacy in the Working Relationship (p. 81)
Counseling: Two Sides of the Coin on the Theme 'Intimacy and Sexuality' (p. 82)
Dialogue (p. 83)
Questions for Self-Reflection (p. 85)
Exercises (p. 85)
Exercise-Intimacy and Proximity (p. 85)
Exercise-Proximity/Making (Eye) Contact (p. 87)
Exercise-Drawing the System of Origin (p. 88)
Exercise-Constellation Using Mats (Additional Exercise) (p. 91)
5 Separation and Loss (p. 92)
A Case Study (p. 92)
Without Goodbyes, No Helios (p. 93)
Rituals for Loss and Saying Goodbye (p. 95)
Counseling the Other Side of Grief and Loss (p. 98)
Dialogue (p. 100)
Self-Reflection Questions (p. 102)
Exercises (p. 102)
Exercise-Lifeline (Addition for the Theme Loss and Saying Goodbye) (p. 102)
Exercise-Goodbye Letter (p. 103)
Exercise-'What Still Needs to be Said' (p. 104)
Exercise-Untangling Multiple Losses (p. 105)
6 Grief (p. 108)
A Case Study (p. 108)
The Duality of Grief (p. 109)
Grief Oscillates Between Past, Present, and Future (p. 110)
Grief as Pileup of Crises (p. 112)
Factors Influencing Grief (p. 114)
Attachment Styles and Grief (p. 114)
Meaning and Nature of the Relationship (p. 115)
The Social Network (p. 115)
Nature and (Special) Circumstances Regarding Loss (p. 116)
Natural Expectation of Loss Based on Age (p. 116)
Hidden, Invisible, or Disenfranchised Grief (p. 118)
Loss by Unnatural Causes (p. 119)
How Different Groups Grieve Differently (p. 121)
Difference Between Men and Women (p. 121)
Grief in Children and Young People (p. 122)
Grief in Young Adults (p. 124)
Grief in Adults (p. 125)
Grief in the Elderly (p. 125)
The Grief of the Intellectually Challenged (p. 125)
The Grief of People With Acquired Brain Injury (p. 126)
Anticipatory Grief (p. 127)
The Grief of the Terminally Ill Themselves (p. 127)
The Grief of Young People With a Short Life Expectancy (p. 127)
Additional Aspects in Grief (p. 128)
Cumulative Loss (p. 128)
Delayed Grief (p. 129)
Transgenerational Grief (p. 129)
Continuing Bonds (p. 130)
Counseling: The Other Side of Grief (p. 131)
Dialogue (p. 132)
Self-Reflection Questions (p. 135)
Exercises (p. 135)
Exercise-Lifeline (Addition With the Theme 'Grief') (p. 135)
Exercise-Returning the Burden (p. 136)
Exercise-Travel Report (p. 136)
Exercise-Loss-Boxes and Loss-Cupboards (p. 137)
Exercise-Beauty and Consolation: Art in Grief (p. 139)
Exercise-Unfolding the Image (p. 140)
7 Meaning Reconstruction (p. 142)
A Case Study (p. 142)
Grieving Takes Place in a Social Context (p. 143)
Rewriting the Story of Your Life (p. 143)
Internal and External Meaning (p. 146)
Positive and Negative Meaning Reconstruction (p. 146)
Counseling: The Other Side of Meaning Reconstruction (p. 148)
Dialogue (p. 149)
Self-Reflection Questions (p. 151)
Exercises (p. 151)
Exercises-Meaning Reconstruction (p. 151)
Exercises-Backstory and Event Story (p. 151)
Exercise-Virtual Dream Story (p. 152)
Exercise-Virtual Dream Story (Intensified Version) (p. 154)
A Case Study (p. 155)
Exercise-Chapters of Our Lives (p. 156)
8 Resilience-Coping, Trauma, and the Brain (p. 158)
A Case Study (p. 158)
Background (p. 159)
Coping (p. 159)
Trauma (p. 160)
Resilience (p. 163)
The Brain-Perspectives From Head Office (p. 165)
Growth After Loss (p. 171)
Dialogue (p. 173)
Self-Reflection Questions (p. 175)
Exercises (p. 175)
Exercise-Coping and Attachment Styles (p. 175)
Exercise-Inner Separation (p. 175)
Exercise-Mindfulness: Grounding (p. 179)
Exercise-Guided Visualization: What Did You Say Goodbye to This Morning? (p. 180)
Exercise-Growth After Loss (p. 181)
9 Grief in the Context of Work (p. 183)
A Case Study (p. 183)
Loss and Grief at Work (p. 184)
The Loss of a Colleague or Coming to Work After a Loved One Has Passed Away (p. 184)
Organizations as Sources of Loss (p. 186)
Phase One: Change Starts With an Ending (p. 186)
Phase Two: The Neutral Zone (p. 188)
Phase Three: The New Beginning (p. 190)
Secure Bases at Work (p. 191)
Change After Change (p. 192)
Dialogue (p. 194)
Questions for Self-Reflection (p. 197)
Exercises (p. 197)
Exercise-Symbol for Work (p. 197)
Exercise-Transition on the Lifeline (p. 198)
10 Dialogue: Putting Loss Into Perspective (p. 199)
A Case Study (p. 199)
Professional Counseling Is a Transitional Encounter in the Here and Now (p. 200)
Core Skills of the Counselor (p. 201)
Dialogue as a Starting Point and Grounds for Connecting (p. 204)
About Consolation in Dialogue (p. 206)
Dialogue and Old (Parental) Messages (p. 208)
Attachment Dynamics in Dialogue (p. 212)
Structure of a Counseling Program (p. 214)
Dialogue (p. 219)
Invitation to Develop a Personal Vision on Grief (p. 221)
Questions for Self-Reflection (p. 222)
Exercises (p. 222)
Exercise-Which Questions Were Asked? (p. 222)
Exercise-Symptoms of Grief (p. 222)
Exercise-Letter of Consolation (p. 223)
Exercise-Transactions (p. 224)
Exercise-Script Decisions (p. 224)
Exercise-Intake (p. 225)
Exercise-The Structure of a Counseling Program (p. 225)
Bibliography (p. 227)
Index (p. 238)

Author notes provided by Syndetics

Jakob van Wielink, MA, is an international grief counselor and executive coach. He is a partner at De School voor Transitie in the Netherlands, a faculty member at the Portland Institute for Loss and Transition in the USA, and is affiliated with IMD Business School's (Advanced) High Performance Leadership Program in Switzerland.

Leo Wilhelm, MSc, is a grief counselor, author, executive coach, and advisor to De School voor Transitie in the Netherlands.

Denise van Geelen-Merks, MSc, is a psychologist, coach, and couples therapist, and is licensed for systemic work in the Netherlands.